"It's so much darker when a light goes out, then it would have been if it had never shone."
Anyone who has ever experienced grief, knows how intensely it can collapse you. How it can pull you down so deep that you cease to see the light, and begin to question whether it was ever really there.
Grief comes in waves. Like the ebb and flow of the tide, grief comes in, shatters your world, and then it dissipates. You put the pieces back together, only to see the wave return, sometimes even stronger than before.
Grief come in different forms, just like loss. It can be obvious or it can be subtle to an outside observer, but inside it feels the same - devastating.
And grief hurts, it physically hurts. The knot in your chest or the lump in your throat, an intense feeling of tightness or heaviness, these are the very real physical manifestations of grief.
In the language of Yoga, we might describe these as blockages in the energetic body (Chakras) that stop the flow of Prana (life force energy).
In the language of Science, we recognize that the brain translates the stress of grief into a chemical reaction in the body. Just like the feeling of love correlates to an increase in the "feel good" hormones, like dopamine and oxytocin, the loss of love causes a dramatic drop in these, and an increase in stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.
And while it's true that only time will heal a fractured heart, there are some beautiful ways in which we can help it along.
In Asana, we can find gentle backbends in low lunges (anjaneyasana) or on the belly (salabasana) to encourage the heart to re-open. Or we can find a supported paschimottanasana (seated forward fold) if it needs a little more time.
Adding a few drops of doTERRA's Console to your chest and pulse points can increase the healing capacity in these asanas. As can diffusing Console while you mediate or sleep
Console, doTERRA's unique blend for comfort and reassurance, is made with some of nature's most fragrant trees and flowers. Frankincense, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, Sandalwood and Rose all contain chemical components that provide grounding and renewing elements to aid in releasing the emotional burdens of past or present hurt and to facilitate rest, patience and hope.
And remember... "The pain of grief is just as much a part of life as the joy of love. It is perhaps the price we pay for love."
~ Dr. Colin Murray Parkes
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