Forgiveness is a tricky thing. Anger and resentment, hatred and bitterness, can build impenetrable walls around the heart that cannot be breached by outside forces. They stifle joy, crush hope and continue to break our heart over and over again. And the only way to stop the cycle and break through those walls, is with a revolution from deep within their barricades.
Forgiveness comes from the deepest recesses of our heart. It takes a great deal of inner strength and self awareness to love those who have hurt us deeply, but that is what true forgiveness is. An ability to see past the action that has wounded us, to the imperfect and flawed person behind those actions. To offer them compassion, and attempt an understanding that, in most cases, our suffering was not their primary intention, no matter how it may seem from our perspective.
Because we are all imperfect and flawed. And we all deserve compassion and forgiveness.
Again, easier said then done as forgiveness cannot be forced. And when you are wronged, it can hurt so deeply it may seem like an impossibility. But it will come, when the heart is ready. When the body has learned to let go and be vulnerable again. When we can once again trust, and believe in the goodness of others. And for that, our greatest tool is time.
But of course, yoga can help us on this journey. Gentle backbends like standing camel pose (ustrasana) or heart pose (anahatasana) invite the heart to open from a rooted and grounded place. And a supported, heart opening, supta badha konasana (reclined soles of the feet together, bolster along the spine) will allow the body to release any attachments to a negative past and re-establish trust once more.
Adding some of doTERRA's Forgive oil on the pulse points and heart center, or diffusing a few drops as needed throughout the day, can help encourage the heart to reopen gently and slowly, like the warming sun on the first buds of Spring. A soothing blend of trees and herbs like Spruce, Juniper, Arborvitae, Thyme, Myrrh and Bergamot, these oils help calm the emotions in times of stress, and foster a sense of renewal, understanding and tolerance. Because the one we best serve by offering forgiveness, is ourselves.
"Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace."
~Jonathan Lockwood Huie